Be exceptional. Be spontaneous. Be honest, and rise above every outward emotion that gets between you and your significant other. When you are in a relationship, you take full responsibility for what happens between you both. However, sometimes, amidst the usual disputes of our relationship, we just want to vent or seek support of our friends and close ones, so we start telling them our problems. In a world where social media continues to spread in our daily lives, we tend to talk to our friends or best friends about our relationship with our partner.
This issue may seem of less importance, but you should honestly ask yourself this: how much are you willing to share with others about your relationship and why? Of course, not everyone tells everything about their relationship, but this article deals with this other kind; the kind that goes straight away to tell their friends about their private relationship.
Talking with others about our problems is becoming a usual habit for most of us, and here comes the problem. To know why we spontaneously do this is the key to changing this habit.
Always remind yourself: a relationship is, by definition, an intimate relationship between two persons; TWO, and only two. They can be a husband, wife, boyfriend and girlfriend or engaged couples.
As spontaneous as this act may seem, everything has a reason. This being said, there are two main causes that urge us to talk with other people about our private issues.
When we fight with our other half or face any problem, we are usually full of anger, sadness and resentment. So, we tell other people about the issues because we want to vent and just feel their support. While venting to your best friend is not a problem, there is a problem in wanting to vent in the first place. The right relationship will automatically include honesty, transparency hence trust. Your partner should be your home and your comfort zone. You should find comfort in your other’s half arms even if you are fighting. Just go to him/her and vent; get it off your chest, and tell them everything that is making you mad. When a problem happens, healthy couples know that this won’t break them apart. Venting and seeking support from others should be directed to your significant others no matter what. Nevertheless, venting is not the only reason that makes us talk to others; to just talk for the sake of talking is the second reason.
To Get them On Our Side
Other times, we tell other people so we can brag about who won the fight or just so we can hear the words “you are right”. Just talking can sometimes make us feel comfortable. Your best friend is the one person you can tell everything to, but again the problem here is your respect to your significant other. We all have best friends, but there comes a point in our lives when we figure out that we shouldn’t and we needn’t tell them every single thing that happens in our life. We grow up and discover that we have our own privacy, and we should be responsible for solving our problems instead of venting or just complaining.
This quote concludes it perfectly, “Every healthy marriage is composed of walls and windows. The windows are the aspects of your relationship that are open to the world—that is, the necessary gaps through which you interact with family and friends; the walls are the barriers of trust behind which you guard the most intimate secrets of your marriage,” Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage, said. Do not let anyone between you two even at your worst times. Your partner is your home. Be authentic. Hop on a train of pure vulnerability. Uncover your most unrevealed emotions. Lay bare. Expose it all, and you will never regret it